I am lost
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My ex-girlfriend and I were together for over a year and all of a sudden she said that she needed to take a break and that she needed some space. She told me that she was lost and still very young and that she didn't want to wake up in 20 years and feel like she didn't get to live. So I told her that I would give that to her because I understood that she was a couple of years younger than me and everybody needs to have that fun. I made a point to ask her if we were going to see other people and if were going to still say that we loved each other. She told me it wasn't about other guys and that she still wanted to say "I love you." She also said it would not be very long and that she planned on getting back together with me. So I gave her over a month and it seemed that we grew farther and farther apart. I would call her about once a week or let her call me. She stopped telling me she loved me and never made any plans with me. So last night she finally came over and we talked and she said that she can't see herself with anyone else but me in the future, but she couldn't handle this relationship right now. She said that she still loves me but that she is not in love with me anymore. She finally told me the real reason she broke up with me which was that I took her for granted. During the past month, in which we were on break, I had realized my mistakes and I told her what I had did wrong and that I had changed and would never do that again. I truthfully have changed and I know that she is the one for me but she said that she now sort of resents me and that her heart can't trust me at this point. So she gave me back my spare car keys and she left. But then she sent me a text message saying that "I am sorry for hurting you, I wish I was the person that you need me to be right now but I am not. But the second I find her you will be the first to know. I hope that someday we can understand each other as we are now and be able to let the past go. I carry you in my heart and I still love you." So my question is what do I do now? If I still feel like she is the one and she feels the same, where do I go from here? I am desperate for help...Sorry it was so long and thank you.
Sorry to hear you are in this situation.
A good thing to do is to continue talking with her every so often to see how she is doing and to let her know you still care.
The odds are good that she is feeling separated from you and although she would like to think that there is a chance of you two getting back together she really believes that it is over.
That is not what you want to hear, but that's the way I read it.
Keep in contact with her, you never know what may develop.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com