Being Nice to Girls
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hello, im a 14 year old boy who is just wondering if i should act nice to a girl i really like.this question may seem awkward but im asking it because everyone tht i know and hang out with treats girls badly sort of. Like pieces of meat, "ohh she has the best breasts!" or whatever and they really never get down to actually talking to them, just instead grab their butt or sort of annoy the girl, and in the end they get a girlfriend. Im just wondering if i treat a girl i like actually nice a respect her, will i stick-out as a nice caring guy, or just a goody goody and never get a girlfriend?
Yikes, well first, there are all sorts of boys out in the world. There are some that treat girls like pieces of meat, and there are those that treat girls like great friends. Believe me, girls do NOT want to hang out with someone that treats them badly. They might give in in the short run, because they like the attention, but it tires very quickly. Girls want to feel SPECIAL and CARED FOR. So you'll get the real relationship, and your buddies there will end up in bars trying to find yet another 'piece of meat' for the night and be pretty miserable.
So definitely do NOT start acting like they are. The girls that are special are NOT dating those boys, they are wondering why all boys are slime because they're not hearing from you and they think all boys are like your friends.
Be a FRIEND to this girl you like. Be there to talk to her and listen to her. When you two enjoy spending time together, find some casual things to do together, things she would enjoy. If she loves Harry Potter, talk to her about it and when a movie comes out, offer to go along with her. If you always do "friend" things together soon it'll evolve naturally into more 'boyfriend/girlfriend' without any stress and with both of you really happy about it.
And while you're cuddling close with her and able to talk about everything with her, and be truly special together, your breast-obsessed buddies will have been dumped by their girlfriends for being immature and uncaring. So stick to your caring attitude. That's the dream guy that all girls (and women) dream about finding. Who dreams about dating a guy that treats you like meat?
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com