When do you give the cheater a 2nd chance?

If these requirements are met, then try again:

1) Did he/she confess and TRULY show REMORSE? If they don't do this SOON after discovery, drop them. (If they won't admit and keep withholding the truth- it is OVER!)

2) Do you REALLY LOVE each other? (You must distinguish between Love and Lust)

3) The cheater must be held accountable and offer this information freely. (Where I am going, who I am with etc...)

4) The betrayed victim must have it within themselves the ability to forgive and not hold it over the cheater's head FOREVER.

If you can meet these requirements, you can try to make it work....but TRY HARD or it will not work.