How to find a girl part 2

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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hello again. I'm the one with the "How to find a girl" topic.

I understand that in order to find a girl, I would have to flirt with girls to get their attention. I was extremely nervous, but I DID manage! My plan was like this: I would make eye contact with the girl, and then when the girl makes eye contact with me, I would either smile and look away or look away and then smile. So far it hasn't worked out yet, but I know it's probably NOT going to happen in one day. Hell, it could happen when I least expect it! You are going to tell me to keep doing it. Well, don't you worry. I WILL keep doing it!

What I want to know is this:

WHO exactly should I flirt with WHEN should I flirt? What I mean is should I flirt if she has friends around her (girls or guys) If she's with another guy, I probably shouldn't flirt with her, right? For all I know, he could be her boyfriend. I know better lol. Or should I just go ahead and flirt with everybody?

About "getting out there" like you mentioned before. I think that it would be a great idea to join some clubs, but there's one problem. None of the clubs interest me. Like if there was a chess club, I would do it, but there is none. Awww. LOL.

Normally, I would go straight home from school on the bus EVERY DAY, and I would only stay after school if I have to. I realized if I do that, I will probably get NOWHERE! So, I have decided to start hanging out after school and try to meet new people AS MUCH AS I CAN! I could definitely use my time better than just going home every day, wouldn't you say?
Going home every day from school is NOT getting out there!
But if I start going to the home JV and Varsity baseball games, maybe even softball (girls) games in April (only a month away), that IS getting out there! It's better than being alone!

So what do you think?


P.S. I have a feeling something GREAT is going to happen real soon!
Oh, one more thing: Does wearing hearing aids have to do with anything here?

Sorry for being so detailed about it!

User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
Try Youth Groups

I suggest finding a youth group to go to. Those tend to be great places to meet girls. Also, no offense, but girls usually (not always) but usually don't go to chess club. I would know cause my school has a Chess Club & Team that i'm on and seriously girls pretty much never go there unless invited by guys which is rare too cause chess club isn't exactly the stud lounge. Nvm anyways i advise meeting girls at youth groups but i can't exactly help u w/ other stuff i'm just as amateur as u.

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