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Recently I asked my friend, which is a girl, about one of her friends. I asked her if her friend was single because recently I became attracted to her because she's very pretty. I know this girl because she goes to school with me but we don't really know her eachother because we don't get a chance to be at the same place. So now since school is out I want to make a move and get to know her better to see if there's a possible connection, but my only possible communication to her or my only way to get to her is through my friend because I don't know anyother of her friends and because I don't have her number. So I finally asked my friend if this girl was single and I got an answer that was confusing, my friend said that she was single but wanted to be alone, she also said that many guys have tried and that I shouldn't even try. I can't really take this answer because how can my friend make this girls decision, and even if it is true, maybe she hasn't met the right guy, which could be me. I really want to get to know this girl and maybe date her, but I don't know how to get to her without using someone as a middle man. And if she really doesn't want someone right now, should I stop or be persistent? Is there something special I can do to make a good first impression and sweep her off her feet? What should I do about this situation?, because I can only get to hee through my friend.

User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Be confident

I agree with everything this guy said. Be patient with this girl & who knows, she may like you the more you try to be her friend. Also, be yourself and be honest about who you are. No one likes a fake. If you're honest about who you are, she'll think that you're a cool guy & that you're real. Don't try too hard to impress her. Even though you're trying to impress her, don't make it so obvious. She wants to know you're a cool, down to earth, simple, laid back, descent guy. If you're that guy, let her see that; let her see the real you. Just be confident, hold your head up high when you walk up her & ask her out as friends. If she says yes, don't get too excited. Just be cool & slick. Good luck man, Amanda

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