Can't get over jealousy/trust issues

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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 15 months now. just lately we had this huge fight about how i don't trust him. I really don't trust the beginning of our relationship he and my best friend were texting back forth about how they wanted to try to be togethre and he was saying things like 'i wish i could be with you' and so on. i broke up with him. we got back together a few weeks later cuz he said i was the one he really wanted. but then a few months later a group of us was in the hottub and he grabs my same friend and pulls her onto his lap and everything while completely ignoring me. things since then have gotten better but i cannot get those incidents out of my head! i keep bringing them up..and when he drinks i trust him even less! this lack of trust and jealousy ruined what we had. i don't like him begin around any girls,,especially this friend. and he says i am making him choose between me and his (girl) friend but i can't help it. i can't control my jealousy or learn to trust him...can i make things better even after 15 months?? like i know people have been through worse and did alright but my jealousy and lack of trust is too much :( would it be easier to just stay broken up and move on??

User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Get out of your life

Well love my bf is over me like that so i know how he feels but girl wot hes doing is wrong u deserve much beter my bf is very jealouse and dont trust me but i dnt gv hm a reas0n to be jealouse but he doesnt like me chating to guys coz he dnt trust me gal just sit hi down tell him if he loves u then u cum first in his life tel hm u dnt mind hm speaking to girls but he gets out of hand if tel hm if u dnt like it he cn get out 0f ur life and cum bk wen he has changed if its n0t to late

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