My fiance cheated on me. Advise?

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Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Male
My fiance and I have been engaged for a little over a month and have been living together for a little over a year. We have known each other for over 12 years and dated for a couple of those years in the begginning. She was married for six years and said she settled for someone who wasn't me. She started acting really strange after I put that ring on her finger and she kept saying it was just nerves but my gut feeling told me otherwise. After getting into her email I seen that she was seeing this guy from work. She said she was going to tell me and was glad I found out. She says she is extremely sorry for hurting me and in order for me to move on (with or without her) I forgave her. I still love her and we are still living together. She no longer works with the guy she cheated on me with and says that she will never contact him again. This puts a hold on the wedding plans but should I even give her a chance? How can I trust her again?

User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
Big bad wolf

My fiance cheated on me with his ex wife and it changed me as a person completely.I am now paranoid,jealous and always over emotional.I love him very much,but I hate him for what he has done to me.I know we'll never be the happy carefree couple we used to be,but I hope in time he'll either prove himself to me or I'll come to my senses and leave him.I know it sounds stupid,but we all know a leopard doesn't change its spots and 'Once a cheater,always a cheater',but when you love,you keep believing it has to end with a happy ever after,till you've had enough and you change into the big bad wolf.

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