Not capable of relationship

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Original Visitor's Question from a 61-70 year old Female
Are some people just not relationship material? I have recently come to the realization that I had an abusive (verbal, psychological, physical) childhood. After many failed relationships and 2 marriages that lasted five years a piece, I'm wondering if it's just not in me to have a successful relationship. successful meaning long-term and reasonably healty, respect, love, companionship, sex. It seems like I'm happier not dating or getting involved. I fear more rejection. What bothers me is that being in a good marriage had been very important to me.

User Submitted Advice from a 51-60 year old Female
don't fall short

Same problem. It doesn't mean its your fault or something is wrong with you. Something is wrong with them. Can't commit, can't be intimate on a one on one basis. He loves the web site. He gets his kicks and jollies from that. The rejection is so intense, I've lost alot of faith in myself.

I love him, but can't settle not having intimacy, its who I am, and I love to express all my feelings, not keeping them pent up because he has a problem.

You need to explore. Talking to others on a web site like this, or finding a friend on a dating website.

I can't give up what is important to me. Sharing and intimacy are who I am....

Seek someone who can give you what YOU need. Don't let yourself fall short!

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