How to break up when you are still in love.

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I hear people say don't break up unless you are truely out of love with a person. But me and my partner have endless love for eachother, but we argue endlessly as well. The only way I could see peace was to end the relationship. She still wants to work on it, but we have tried for 3 years and still end up arguing about nothing. Everything boils down to insecurity, jealousy, and miscommunication on both parts. When I try to be up front with her she blows up and we can't finish the converstaion. I shut down and then she gets nervous cause she thinks I'm hidding something. This cycle has cost us our relationship, yet we are still very much in love. What should we do??? We have already gone to the therapist and she even stormed out of there. She can't hold her own, yet she blames me, then I blame her. What in the world?Neither one of us has cheated, but we are still friends with our exs, but even when our exs aren't the issue we still fight over ghost! I really need help!

User Submitted Advice from a 61-70 year old Female
Try Christian class

Just because you have tried a therapist doesn't mean you have gotten help. Most therapist are not very good. You probably would get more help in a marriage communication class with group and individaul sessions. I would suggest a Christian class since their emphasis is usually on love.

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