I'm 14 and haven't found love yet

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Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Male
i know this may sound awkward, but i am about 14 and my friends and people i know r way ahead of me in "experience". by that i mean that people have actually had sex, while im stuck without my first kiss, and i am a guy by the way.

it seems unfair that i am left without such things, not merely sex, but love. and im not exactly sure what a girl is interested in, for example i know many people that have nothing in the means of personality, but are popular and good looking. i certainly try to be nice, but no matter what, i keep thinking about my looks as the problem.

Another thing that bothers me is that it seems that all the girls that i know are sort of, well "flashy" and they like to "show off".like flirting with the whole crowd, such as lifting their shirts to show some skin, and i dont know y it aggravates me in such a way, but it does. and many times i feel left out, and even though i keep thinking i have plenty of time, i keep reverting to the idea of myself being deprived of something.

User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female

it will be a long time until you find that right love. yes everyone can date and feel okay around their partner. it's when you know that this person is the right one, you both have so much feeling for each other, that you know you want to spend the rest of your life with this other person.

just to let you know, i am 21(will be 22 next month) i got married at the age of 18(biiiigggg mistake). now i am legally separated and going through a divorce. i have this really close friend of mine, he treats me right and loves me for who i am. i can't wait until we can have the chance to see if things work out. what i am trying to say, when you are young it is all about puppy love. when you get older and more mature, that's when it all matters.

keep with what you have for you, create a good beginning for yourself. keep up with your grades, school, sports(if anything). set accomplishments for yourself(not accomplishments with being with girls), later in life when you have a secured job and know you can take care of you and a possible family, you'll be ready for it. you won't be one of those guys, who at a young age dated so many girls(got a few of them pregnant) and have to work just to pay off child support and hate his life because of it.

just don't rush off into finding love, love will be waiting for you when you know that you are ready and able to handle it. about not being experienced in many things, especially with sex, don't worry about it. say that you, later in life, find this perfect girl...in every way possible and you want to share everything special with her. having her be your first and you her yours, will put so much meaning and special love in your relationship, that it was worth it to wait. trust me, it does mean something in the end, when waiting for that right one.

i hope that i have been some help for you.

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