I'm Shy - How do I Ask her Out?

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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I like this girl that I hang around with, but I'm kind of shy. I've known her for three years and I know her likes and dislikes and she knows mine. I'm afraid I'll get rejected by her because she might just think of me as her friend only. so I don't know what to do in this situation.

User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Test her

No way! Don't let her go!
I am so much in love with my best friend right now. WE've known each other about 2 years and we know almost everything about each other. I'm glad that I told him I like him, and his reply was that he had always loved me more than a friend, he just didn't have the courage to tell me that. What you can do is to just try to see if she likes you first. Such as, you can tell her that some girl likes you and ask her if she thinks you should be with that girl. If she appears to be a little jealoused, then there you go! If she doesn't, then try another test for her. Such as, don't contact her for about a week or so, and see if she misses you more than a friend should. Or, try this, say that you are thinking about moving to another country for your career, and you actually have nothing to left behind, you wish that there is someone in this country to make you stay. Then ask her if she is that person.
So, basically, try all of these things first to see if she really likes you. If she doesn't appear to care about you more than a friend should, then you should let it go. But I really wish that you will be with the person you love eventually!

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