Why does he need it?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I know that pornography is a big subject. My fiance was out of town and I stayed over at his place to watch his dogs. I was using his computer and there are several files full of porn and five or more porn sites saved on his favorites list. I haven't spoken to him about it yet but I'm so disgusted by it that I won't let him touch me.
Why do guys seem to need that kind of thing? I can't help but feel like now I have to live up to those nasty, surgury enhanced girls. It makes me feel so horrible. We have been having issues with my jealousy for a long time and I'm afraid that he'll be mad at me for saying anything because not only did I pry but I'm also always jealous and suspicious. I have no idea what to do but I'm hoping to get a few answers.
Lonely and Jealous
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Porn is ok
I really hate it when women dis porn and take the movies and clips so litterally. You have got to remember that men at not monogomous. Humans have been on earth for millions of years and only for the past hundred thousand years have we been pair mating. If you tell your boyfriend to stop with the porn then he is going to look anyway and lie to you about it. So you may as well just be okay with it. Would you rather him take out his urges for other women on real women? I'm guessing thats a big no. So in the end its better that he just LOOKS at women rather than take home a real one. my boyfriend and I go to the stip club together a lot and I also let him see all the porn he wants. I even watch it with him and I think its really fun and it really adds to our sex life. In all honesty if I was your boyfriend I would dump you the second you start to nag about porn because its rediculous and it shows that you are afraid to experiment with sex. How can something inside a screen threaten you?!
Stop being so crazy. And for your own good I hope you take my advice.
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