Maybe that's all he is ready for now

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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
My man and i have been "seeing"(!) each other for about 7 months now and i really want to be able to officially say we are a couple. Everybody thinks of us as a couple, including his friends, and neither of us has kissed or slept with another person since we first started "seeing" each other. But he on the other hand says that he doesn't want a relationship and just wants to be single and that he just wants to "see" me!!! whenever i bring the subject up he becomes defensive and distant. his best friend came up to me the other day and told me that my man was in love with me and that i am all he ever talks about, he just cant show it to me. i dont understand what the difference would be if we became a couple as neither of us goes off with other people anyway. I know that he's had a lot of family troubles and a close death in the family, also several bad break ups from 2 long term relationships. but i really cant understand his behaviour or understand how i should behave towards him. please please help me as my friends cant take anymore of my going on at them!!

User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
move on

As I was reading this article It was like a flash back from the past..I once went through a similar situation..and the only piece of advice that I can give you is that no matter what his friends say or think about you a man will not committ until he is ready and there is really nothing that you can do to change that..and if he can't show you the love that you want to feel its time to move on..I know its not what you want to hear but your only hurting yourself by holding on to something that is superficial...

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