cheating after 2 1/2 years
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years. About 4 months ago, he met a girl who he intended on just being good friends with(he said she was just a very nice person) but one thing led to another and he ended up kissing her. Now, I know, kissing isn't terrible, but it still hurts. Recently, he felt as though it was necessary to say goodbye to her before she left for college, and to fix things between them two since he hates when people hate him. My trust is already gone and I don't know what to do. I love him too much to let him go after just a silly kiss, but I'm nervous it will happen again.I mean, he was so good at lying and hiding it before that I don't know if I will figure it out again. I just need to know if I should stick around and see what happens or just let go, despite all of the pain
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Kissing may be innocent in comparison to all the other things couple do, but it's still cheating. It's still lying. It's still unfaithful and it shows how easily this person you love is able to forget about you when they're with someone they like. There are millions of beautiful and cool girls out there, and if you can't trust that the guy you're with will pass all of them because his loves you, then you shouldn't stick around. I wouldn't leave because of one kiss, and I wouldn't let it ruin my trust, but I would let him know that it hurt and I consider cheating and I can't handle him just kissing other girls. If he can't give you the same devotion you give him, then you need to leave before you waste more time on the wrong guy.
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