Is my Jealousy Normal?
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Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost one year and we love each other very much. However I get really jealous becaue I always see him looking at other girls when we are out, and earlier in the relationship he used to comment on how good looking another girl or he'd even comment on another girls breats or bum. He's also always looking up pornography on the internet.
Ive spoken to him about this and he says even though he does this he only has feelings for me... I believe him but it still hurts so much!!
Is it normal to be jealous of this??? Please help xxx
User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
My mom told me that all guys do it. Whether that's true, I don't know. I think that mine does... and I like you try to ignore it. I figure as long as he is just looking it's ok. Just like I might have some stupid crush on some movie star. But him commenting about them to you, in my opinon, is abusive. Tell him that it makes you uncomfortable that he does that. If he continues, then you know he's not the right person for you. And don't let him say, you are over reacting about that!
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