Should I stay with him and try harder

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Hi George once again i will apreciate if u were 2 give me some advise on my relationship with my bf ill b really thankfull,so me n my bf have been arguing alotbut now i feel like i lost controlover myself n the whole situation he makes me really mad i start yelling screaming n sometimes even curse,last night i told him he was a sissie n not 2 run away from his problems n confront them, part of the reason is b cause when we r on the phone he does what he use to do in the begining of the relationship he will hang up on me when he doesnt wanna hear it or change the subject, or make me pay for the hurt i caused with the yelling n all but he will do it in lil ways that i wont knotest like breaking something that means alot 2 me n making it look like an accident or doing things he knows will bug me anyways i also think there is some 1 else in his life usually he calls me from work at lunch break 2 day he didnt. we argue so muchi cant handle it no more it hurts anyways i found a phycologist who might help us with the jeleousy issues our first appointment is for nextweek but we both insist on wanting to find a place were they havelie detector test or polygraph test but we need one near by i looked it up in the internet i found one all the way in missisauga i looked it up in the yellow pages too but found nothing so i was wondering maybe u know were else i can look,even though i dont think it will help much cause i feel my boyfriend will hate me for putting him up for this even though it was his idea,i think is time to end the relationship but i want to do it in a way that no 1 gets hurt even though i love him n i know i will feel like im loosing my life,i also need some good advise in how to aproach men or were can i find good men i know this sounds dumm but most guys say they to intimidated to talk to me even though most might find me atractive they wont come up to me they 2 scare of rejection so i think i should start coming up to them but the thing is im not use to that so i dont know plizz should i stay with him or try harder even though he feels so much more distant n i feel a break up coming up soon...

User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female
Existing relationship

I've recently had a few problems with my long time boyfriend and we ended breaking up for a while. Now I'm trying to make things up and I hope things work out but sometimes I get a bit frustrated, wondering if I should start introducing myself to other guys. But, when I think about it... it seems to be a bit ambivalent, or wavering in two different directions, if I am trying to make it work but "introducing" myself to other guys. It seems to conflict a bit to me. Doesn't it seem more likely that diverting your attention to other gentlemen, even if things aren't going right, is a bit violating to the existing relationship that is trying to work?

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