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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I work with this guy, and we made love, and I'm starting to fall for him. Problem is, he's still married. What should I do?

User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female
You call the shots

Well i am going through the same thing accept we didn't have sex, and not on my part either, I would like to but he told me he is not going to cheat on his wife, so yeah, it does make me see him in a different light. If he would go to bed with me, and we got involved, and he got tired of me, he'd go to bed with somebody else. I'm not saying there isin't a lot of flirting going on, and he has mentioned to me, after I told him that i was attracted to him, that the feeling was mutual, the only advice i can give is trust your instincts, and i know it's hard but, he can't possibly be the only man in the world you can have a sexually stimulating relationship with, I know I should do well to take my own advice, it's so hard though when your drawn to them, and spend so much time with them, but the hardest part for me is knowing on the weekend, he will be wtih her all weekend making the chance for him and I more slim, she still has the power to bring him back, no matter how much i seduce him, she is the one ultimately getting everything she needs from him, and I get cheated. Since you already had sex with him, you can't undo it, but I try to put myself in your shoes and believe me, It would devastate me if he didn't leave her, after what we did together. Why not come right out and ask him, where do i stand, remember Fatal Attraction! Your more of in a bargaining position now, the last thing he wants is for his wife to know, so if you don't want it to get ugly, i say cut your losses now, and don't let him play anymore games, you call the shots now!

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