However, i do not feel as though he is my 'soul mate'

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I have been with my current boyfriend for almost two years now and we have a beautiful child together. However, i do not feel as though he is my 'soul mate', i dont believe we have that unbelievable connection. At the beginning i thought he was wonderful but now i dont feel attracted to him and i see him as immature, spoilt and selfish. I always wonder what life would be like if i went back out with my ex who always made me laugh and smile most of the time. However, the problem with my ex is that when he got drunk he would turn into a monster. He never physically hurt me but he get paraletic drunk and make a fool of himself and me. This happened atleast once a fortnight. But my ex was a fantastic guy when he was sober. I feel that maybe i rushed in too quickly with my current boyfriend (as i started going out with him almost immediately when i broke up with my ex). Can i be happy with my current boyfriend? or am i always going to fantasise about life with my ex?


User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
just work it out

hey I think u should stay with your babys dad cause you dont want her to grow up with out a dad try to make it work for your child im in the same situation i have a lil girl with my boyfriend i sometimes wanna be with other guys cause he was my first i dont regret my lil girl but anyways just work it out

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