pictures ruining my relationship
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
hi, i'm 37 and am ruining another relationship because i can't stand my partner seeing any pictures of other women, i feel hurt , angry, upset, and betrayed by this and don't know how to stop these feeling.i worry all day every day about what my partner has seen. don't like my partner going to the shops coz of pictures can't watch tv coz of pictures and its driving us both insane. i am not happy with my own body but feel if my body was better would still have these feelings coz my partner is still looking at other bodies and would still feel the same way about it. we are otherwise really happy but this very big problem is overwhelming and ruining it. i know that pictures are verywhere and can't be avoided so need to sort out my mindset and get over this problem any helpfull suggestions greatfully recieved thanks.
I am not clear if we are talking about porn pictures or just the glamour images we are bombarded with through advertising and entertainment.
If porn is an issue for you two, then have a good long talk about how that is not acceptable for you, and possibly see a couples therapist to work this out.
If you are going crazy over just normal images put out by the media, then you can't control whether he sees that. It's everywhere, like you said. If this is indeed the case, you will need to see some professional help to work through your feelings of worthlessness and poor self esteem. You are not alone in feeling diminished by societies' expectations of beauty, but that does not make it healthy. You really need to find a healthy self image from within, and counseling can absolutely be a big way to help you find your own belief in your own beauty.
-- from Jill
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