AM I STUPID???
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
okay this guy that I've been dating for about 3 months now he's realli special to me he's not like the other guys friends...but the thing with him is he has 2 kids with 2 different baby mothers and he's a young man he's 21 and im 20 and he has alot going on with himself he works at a good job has his own car his own apartment take care of both his kids just doing well 4 himself but me on the other hand I dont work I still stay with my parents I dropped out of college I dont have a car its just I'm the complete opposite from him I'm trying to get my life back in order and trying to do something but I cannot figure out why is this dude talkin to me we already had sex so I know he wasn't just after that because he's still around. Since he work all the time I only get to hang with him until late at night so we always hit the drive-in movie up all the time I just feel like he's not ready to be in a relationship he says he wants a girlfriend and he said he eventually want to make me his girl but I feel like its just all talk. He offers to pay for things for me like my phone bill my phone is currently off and we send each other messages on twitter to communicate and he's tired of that so he wants to pay my bill and I am a very stubborn hard headed young lady with alot of pride and I don't like guys paying for me I just feel like they gone throw it in my face later...but would I be stupid to let a good guy go because I'm not at his level far as him being more responsible and taking care of his business I just feel like I don't deserve him and I don't know how to take all this in, sorry for long story
He sounds like a nice young man. He works, has a car, takes care of his babies and STILL wants to be with you even after you have given him sex. So he seems to like you for you! This is a good thing. Don't worry about whether you are 'good enough' for him. He seems to have made the decision you are, and that is that. It's a good thing :)
You don't have to let him pay your way if you don't want. You can be as strong as you like and he will respect that.
If you have feelings for him, then make that clear and go for it! If YOU are not ready, then simply be honest about how you feel. You can never go wrong with honesty.
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com