More than friends
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi, I'll warn you this is a little bit long.
Well I've known this girl for about two to three years now and I've confessed once before to her that I wanted to be more than friends but I was too late, she had liked me before but when I told her my feelings she no longer felt the same way. So we stayed as friends. Anyway, since then she has lost her virginity and now she tells me that she doesn't want a bf but a friend with benefits. I've let her know that i have also had several friends with benefits and she wants one. She knows that I'm not seeing anyone either.
The only trouble is whether to comment to her that we could be friends with benefits,lately she has been telling that she hasn't had any for about 3 to 4 months & she's going crazy. Recently we're closer than usual, mind you it is winter lol, we cuddle alot more and she kisses me alot more(before you ask no we aren't going out together). The other night while we were cuddling I noticed that she push her lower area onto mine, normally I don't take any notice but this time she pushed it quite hard against my lower area (plus I was aroused at the time, so maybe she already knew). Everytime we meet we always end up talking about sex, her usually bringing up the topic even though I've brought it up once.
So my question is: should I tell her that we could be friends with benefits if she wants and how? (she wouldn't get offended but how would you put it?)
Thanks alot, Rob from Spain.
If you are sure that you won't get hurt, and that you are okay with being friends with benefits, then simply come right out and tell her. Say, "I care about you and want to be intimate with you, but just as friends." Then see what she says. It sounds to me that she is asking you that question already and is waiting to see what you say.
Simple and honest is usually best. :)
-- from Jill
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