Some people think that relationships should be easy with someone you love - that in a "good" relationship there is never any arguing. Some people actively avoid conflict, always giving in to their partner in order to maintain this illusion of perfection.
Conflict is a normal part of life. Dealing with conflict is an extremely important part of a relationship. If you do not find ways to work out issues so you *both* feel like you´ve achieved something, then when a really large issue comes along, you will not be prepared to face it together.
Think of the smaller fights as training grounds. Learn how to fight cleanly, without dragging in old arguments. Discuss the problem without personal attacks, and actually resolve the issues. It will help your relationship weather the years.
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