I really am confused about this girl I know in my class. I am taking a English course in college and she started chatting with me all the time. At first I thought she was just being friendly, but every time I sit in the class she sits next to me. And one time when she couldn't sit next to me, she told me that she wanted to sit next to me. I got the feeling that she may like me and every time I leave the class we always end up talking and walking. This has been going on for months. What I really think is strange is that she occasionally brings up her boy friend.Once I heard she had one thought she was just being friendly and I probably shouldn't go after her.To make things even more strange, I once told her I liked Cadbury chocolate and the next week she brought me one. I am truly confused and I need advice?

Hi bil8
Yes, I agree, that is confusing behaviour.
However, it is possible for a girl to like a boy, without wanting to be his girlfriend.

At university, I used to sit next to the same boy for most classes. He was very good-looking and very nice. I think the other girls were too shy to sit by him. But I had been employed in an office, so was used to working alongside men. Plus, I was married, so I thought nothing of it. However, I do think that I had him confused, too. He looked absolutely amazed when he discovered that I was married. Maybe he picked up the wrong message, because I always sat by him and I did find him very pleasant. Maybe this girl is in a similar category.

Or maybe she wanted to see your reaction when she mentioned her boyfriend ~ it might be that she is attracted to you and isn't yet sure what to do about it ~ or maybe she just enjoys your company ~ and happened to see some Cadbury's chocolate on the way to college.

You could try asking her about the boyfriend and see how she responds???

I don't know. But good luck!
You will probably find out what is going on in due course.

Welcome to the forum.

I always prefer the blunt approach but not really direct. You could simply ask if she and her boyfriend are going steady? If she answers no then the door is open. If she answers yes then you ask the next question. Does that mean you would never consider going out with anyone else? At this point, she is bound to think you might be interested. If she is interested, she will open the door by saying that she would consider it or close it by saying absolutely no. Depending on the answer, the next move is yours. If she says no, you loose nothing because you can agree that is the way it should be. It turns the enquiry into simple chit chat. If she says that she would consider it, then you have nothing to loose if you tell her that you wanted to ask her out but did not want to step out of line. There is the chance that she will not answer and ask you why you want to know. If she has enjoyed talking to you I don't think she would be offended if you tell her you that you enjoy talking to her and thought it might be nice to have lunch some time. This is a much more causual request and is something friends and aquaitences do all the time.

Yes, Jo, good advice!