So, I have a bad track record for dating and appreciate advice. I usually move probably too slow. As a result I want to try something new with this girl I've been attracted to for a while. She is a friend of at least a half a dozen of my friends, but we have barely even met.

Basically, my question is, is it ok to approach a woman you have barely met and ask her on a date? How would you suggest going about getting a date with a girl like this? Any advice would be great as I am just interested in trying out a new approach.

Hi Someone

You say that you have 'barely met', but that means that you have met ~ and, presumably, she knows that you have mutual friends.

Next time you do see each other you could just start by giving her a big smile and simply saying hello, and introducing youself. You could say something like 'we met at ..., if you remember? Or 'Didn't we meet at ...?

You could even ask 'Do you come here often?' ~ such an old-fashioned cheesy chat-up line that it might just be considered amusing, and break the ice.

You could offer to get her a drink, perhaps ~ soft or alcoholic, depending on age and circumstances ~ or something to eat.
You don't say how old you both are, which can be important.

You could chat about recent films, TV series, or hobbies, or sports ~ just be friendly and follow her interests.

Then you could ask 'Would you like to go to ... this weekend?' It could be a meal, or the cinema, or bowling, or whatever interests you both.

You should be able to tell from her reaction whether things are working out as you had hoped.

Be genuine; be friendly, be nice; be interesting; more importantly ~ be beinterested

Good luck

Yeah, good point. I am 25, all the more reason that a bad track record makes me insecure. I usually see her in the Union on campus here, basically the equivalent of a food court, usually she is with one or more of my other friends. I was visiting with one of them and she talked to me a little bit before we both got too busy with the homework we were there to do. We weren't introduced though. There are the details, thanks so far.

If you are at the same university, have mutual frends and have already chatted a little, then that is a good start for getting to know her better.

Since you weren't formally introduced, then that is the perfect reason to introduce yourself and ask how her studies are going.

Maybe this will not be hard for you because you already chatted with her...If you really want her to have date. when you are starting to chat with her at your university try inviting her for a cup of tee at your school canteen or have a cold drinks. It may be a good start.)