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Re: DELEGATING GIFTS [Re: illusive Fantasy] #420658
12/04/11 02:37 PM
12/04/11 02:37 PM
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Christmas has lost a lot of its magic, that's for sure, but I think that this is only to be expected.

It's magical during childhood ~ for those who have happy childhoods.
It's fun in ones teens ~ going to parties with friends.
It's romantic when shared with one's first love.
It's special when one has a baby at Christmas.
It's magical, again, when the children are young and excited.
I'm guessing the magic retutns when the grandchildren arrive.

But throughout the years, it's a good time to keep in touch with family and friends and to get together.


"The secret of success is constancy to purpose" - Benjamin Disraeli.
Re: DELEGATING GIFTS [Re: illusive Fantasy] #420660
12/04/11 06:45 PM
12/04/11 06:45 PM
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when one feels obligated to keep a "gift" then the true essesnce is lost of what a "gift" really is....which means no obligation or strings attached goes with the "gift" it represents or is suppose to "love" and the freedom to pass that "love" on to someone who might enjoy it...

again unconditional "love" in this case is what the true meaning of "gift giving" is suppose to be...if we now burden ourselves with societal constructs of what is "expected" when giving or receiving that taints the entire concept of "gift giving". The present, is a present of love not obligations.

You can make a choice ... to accept or give a gift of love or obligations. If someone has a problem as to what you do with their "gift" then the problem is theirs, or even what someone does with your "gift"...unless YOU make the problem of obligation your own. A "gift" is something acquired without payment or obligation.


Last edited by illusive Fantasy; 12/04/11 06:57 PM.
Re: DELEGATING GIFTS [Re: illusive Fantasy] #420671
12/05/11 12:20 AM
12/05/11 12:20 AM
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beneath the rim of the Colorad...
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I'm lucky there are no children around - this way I don't have to do any gifts. Everyone close to me knows not to buy me anything or expect anything. I try to ignore the whole season anyway - this year Dan and I are going camping in the Mts around Tuscon. I think we will have pizza, do some hiking, and make a campfire. smile


Jilly

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