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A month ago after we broke up I removed him from my friend's list on facebook. I'm not sure if he just realized it or not, but tonight he sent me a friend request...
I'm thinking I should decline but I was wondering if that would be best? I also considered just ignoring it and not answering it...but then he might call me and I don't want him to call my house...
Any suggestions? I don't want him to call my house, but also I don't want to be unfriendly/rude. Furthermore, I don't have many friends on Facebook but I don't feel desperate to have friends who treat me like second best...
Maybe this is just silly or stupid, but I have all of those things in my head so I'm not sure which approach to take.

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Sorry to hearing that, I do have same problem, hahaha, you have problem with your ex boyfriend and i have problem with my so called (ex) girlfriend.... but I think you can add him in facebook. after all you have nothing to lose anymore...

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What is there to lose? my self respect and dignity are just a few things...
I guess I can always ignore the request...he might assume that I don't use facebook much anymore

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Ignore or decline. Wipe your hands clean of this guy. As I said before in your old posts, you deserve so much better.


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ok so he hinted today about being friends even taking things slow (like I figure a relationship) but I told him I don't want to be friends, or even date him. he reacted funny, he said ok, looked mad and stormed over to his table and then out of the cafeteria...
I sort of feel bad or guilty because I feel like I am not being mature about this, but I really don't want to be his friend, not after how he treated me when I was his gf...and he didn't even call me since we broke up so now he wants to be friends?
am I immature to handle it this way?

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No. Don't let him make you feel bad. It is your choice and no one can force you to be friends with them. The great thing about friendship is that it is a mutual appreciation of one another. The same goes for relationships.


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Wow, he is finally leaving me alone! The last two days he hasn't spoken to me or bothered me!
I guess he either moved on or someone told him to back off.

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Your not doing anything he hasn't done, your just being more honest about it. You go girl.



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Hurrah!! Stay strong!!


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No he's back! I don't know why he hasn't talked to me in the last 2 days (I don't care) but I figured he gave up...he did not.
He is telling people he dumped me...and I said if he dumped me why is he always talking to me? And he said he just wants to be friends, and he even has a new gf...
But if he is so into his new gf, then why does he sit a few tables away and watch me at lunch time?
He knows I am not interested in a friendship but he still comes to talk to me...I even told him that I burned his pictures. Does that not make you think that I am not interested in speaking with him?
I'm ready to just say if you don't leave me alone, stay on his end of the cafeteria, that I am going to ask the security guards to tell him to leave me alone...I think that is extreme though?

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