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Hi parakeet lover.

I have been placed in similar situations and I understand your concerns. I wasn't at all sure what to do, either.

You don't want to make it worse for your friend. You don't want to get her into deeper trouble. You don't want to be blamed for splitting her up from her father. You don't want to stir up trouble if he's just being a strict but loving disciplinarian. You don't want to break a confidence. You don't want to get into any trouble yourself over this.

I am wary of the authorities splitting up families. We all want what is best, but I sometimes wonder if it wouldn't be better to support a family with problems, rather than separating them. It does depend on the situation.

What I did was choose someone else in a position of trust and share my concerns. This person was then able to keep an eye on the situation and try to judge how serious it was.

If child services are involved already, this might be your chance to share your concerns, without being the person responsible for bringing them into the home.


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Originally Posted By: joandboys
... Phycical damage is the least of her worries. She already thinks she deserves it. If she doesn't learn that this isn't the way people treat people they love, she will go on to pick a boyfriend and a husband that treat her the same way, because this is the only kind of love that she is used to. Then that exposes her children to abuse. It is a never ending vicious cycle....
Yes, indeed!


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Thanks.
Thanks again, thanks for the actually contributing reply.

There was alot of good advice there, and I really appreciate it, even if I cant convince myself to follow it to the letter, I really appreciate having some guidance.


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