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Yes, Joe, what seems like the love of one's life at 16, may not be at all and, in fact, rarely is.

Basketballdude3, love at 16 is incredibly special, and heartbreak at 16 is incredibly hard. But Joe is right. You will get over it.

Why she is contacting you, when she has met someone else, I don't know. Maybe she trusts you and feels safety with you, so doesn't want to lose that completely.
But she has to make up her mind.

Maybe, when she says that she will love you forever, she means it, but this could be interpreted in a couple of ways. The obvious one is that she wants you back & is waiting for you to agree. The other is that she will always care for you, as her first love ~ even if you are not together, because first real love does stay with you.

As I said, most people have a series of boyfriends / girlfriends before they find 'the one'. Unrequited love is very hard to deal with. Most teenagers have to cope with it at some stage. You will be fine.

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thanks everyone i am feeling alot better
but yesterday i was talkin to her on AIM she was sayin i love you alots and i want you badly in spanish

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Don't let her play with your feelings, dude. Either she really loves you or she doesn't.....if she does, she'll get rid of this other guy she's with. If she isn't prepared to do that, then she's just stringing you along....don't let her!

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idk really if shes playin with my feelings or not but she sounds serious when she says i love you and stuff

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Well ask her what she is going to do about it.
Is she still with him or not?


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what you mean ask her?
yess shes still with him

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I mean ask her what she intends to do ~ she says she loves you, but she has another boyfriend.
She can't have it both ways, really, can she?
Is she 16 too?


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should i ask her that when the time comes?? i'll probably upset her if i doo
shes 15

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I GIVE UP IM DONE TRYING
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i give up

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At 15, she may have feelings, but she is far too young to be involved in a serious long-term relationship.

As I said before, 16 is very, very young ~ and, obviously, 15 is even younger. I'm not even sure that I think 15 is even old enough to date seriously, never mind to decide, or know, if you have met 'the one'.

I didn't meet my husband until I was 18 ~ and even that is very young to start going out with the person who will be your life partner.

You have changed a lot in the last few years, I'm sure, and you will go on changing ~ as will she. Teens are transition years ~ the best of times & the worst of times.

To talk of spending the rest of your lives together, getting married & having a family, at such a young age isn't a good idea ~ or even realistic.

Enjoy your youth & get to know different people ~ boys & girls ~ but don't get too serious or make long-term plans just yet.

Emotions run high during your teens. She may come back to you; she may not. You WILL get over it. This happens to lots & lots of people. Maybe if you talk to her you will get some sense from her or maybe you will meet someone else soon.

Don't give up on finding 'the one', but don't, at 16, expect to find the girl you will marry. You might, but you are more likely to meet her ~ or meet up again ~ when you are old enough to be in a settled long-term relationship.

Maybe that was what your girlfriend couldn't cope well with. A lot of people might find it a bit frightening to make future plans, like that, at 15.

Take care.


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