she said she didnt want a relationship right now

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I have been dating this girl for about 5 months, she has had a bad past with this guy who used her and treated her badly. This went on for like three years. So we started dating after a month of seeing each other, and then began to get intimate after about two months. I told her that i love her and she said the same back.

after five months the guy who hurt her in the past instant messaged her and asked how she was doing. Then my girlfriend saw this guy at the bar the next weekend, and talked to him. Then the next day she told me she needed time to her self because she was confused. I contated her a couple times during the next week, nothing too serious. Then that weekend we were both at the bar, and i didnt say hi to her right away, and then she came up to me and sked me why i was ignoring her. After that she called me a asshole and gave me the middle finger.

That same night I talked to the guy who played her and hurt her before. My girlfriend saw me talking to him, and flipped out, like i mean flipped. She told me she hated me and never wanted to talk to me again.

The next day I contacted her and asked if she really hated me, and she said no, and apologized for her actions the night before. We began talking about things and she said she didnt want a relationship right now.

I really love this girl, should i just give it time? When should i call her next? and Valentines day is in two weeks should I give her something special that day?

thanks Advice
Give her at least a week.

Then call her to ask her how she is doing, to let her know you still care, and to maintain contact. Be cheerful, don't talk about your relationship, and keep the call to 15 min. If that goes well, start calling her weekly and see how things develop.

A Valentine's Day present is a good idea.

Good luck! George

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