We crossed the line and realized we love each other

Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I'm unhappily married and in the process of divorce. I've been cheating with a married man for over 2 years (he has been married for 17years). I have realized that my marriage will not change and continues to be unhappy, verbally abusive at times physically abusive the last 5 years and on and off of the total 11 years of marriage. I have a small child and feel this is the right move for everyone involved.

The marriaed man I currently see also feels his marriage cannot be salvaged but stays because his daughter has only two years left of high school. He also believes that staying provides more stability for his daughter and it's the only reason he stays. We started as friends waiting over six months before anything happened deciding on friends with benefits. Before either of us knew it we crossed the line and realize we love each other. Neither of us want to admit it because we feel it cannot be, we are married.

I have tried to stop but some how we still continue. It doesn't help we have a mutual friend which knows we are seeing each other. Our friend doesn't endorse it but feels we are soulmates.

Do I completely forget about this man or continue for two years and see where fate takes us?


RomanceClass.com Advice
The odds are good that your secret will come out before two years are over.

Nevertheless, my advice is to continue your affair as long as you can until the two years are up. You could leave your husband now, but it would probably be a financial mess.

Keep in mind that your young child will be two years older and it may hit him/her harder the longer you wait.

These are my thoughts... hope they help! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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