It kills me everytime I drive by the jail and see him outside

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am a young woman who has ben married 11 years I have 3 children and am still in love with a man had an affair with.I had an on and offa gain affair with him for almost 6 years- . I ts been really hard my husband and I have both screweed up badly in our marriage and I just think we are here for the children, I do like my husband and know it would kill me to see him with another woman especially if he were being nice to her, but i feel so much love for this man. He is currently in jail and we don't even write or talk anymore on the phone I haven't seen him in 2 years but it kills me everytime I drive by the jail and see him outside. See his mom hates me and has found a way to convince him to do the same and I can't write him anymore because she has found a way to intercept that too. My husband is very sucessful and he and I both have built this business from the ground up and I feel awful sometimes thinking I have so much to look forward to, buthen I think of this man and wish we could just be together I feel so lovesick when I think about all he and I have sgone through and planned to go through together. I can't shake him I 'm not so sure if I want to, I just know I can't go on like this I am driving myself nuts! But it is not so easy to just pick up and leave what if he never comes back?????? Advice
There is just one answer for your situation.

See a counselor and do it soon. You are putting yourself under too much pressure as it is. Figure out some way to explain it to your husband.

My opinion is that you are obsessed with this guy in jail. Why would you want to give up a husband, hurt three children, and lose a career over someone who doesn't even like you.

Good luck! George

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