14 and Ready for Sex ...?

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
hi im 14 years old and ive been going out with this guy 4 a while now and we have done everything but sex and i think thats what we are going to do next but i want to but i dunno if i could becuse what if the condom breaks and all that s--t.....

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You have a *really* valid concern there. If you've done everything but actual intercourse then you're already having orgasms together which is the 'great feeling' of sex. So actually having him inside you isn't necessarily going to feel any better. In fact, many women don't have orgasms from a guy being in them, so it might not feel as good to you as the other things you're doing. Depending on how things fit (or don't fit) it may not even be better feeling for the guy either. Many guys would rather have oral sex than intercourse as far as the good-feeling goes.

So I would not rush into having intercourse if you have concerns about it. You can only lose your virginity once, and it's something you remember for your entire lifetime. You really want to do it with someone that you've been with for many, many months (if not many years) - someone who you know inside and out and who you love and trust and respect. That final act really isn't about sex, because you've already had orgasms with this person and seen them naked. It's about trust.

Yes, condoms do break, and other things happen. Pregnancy is *always* a risk when you have intercourse. You really, really don't want to have to try to raise a child at 14. It is NOT fun. Babies may look cute, but having to deal with one 24 hours a day and pay for all the expenses is extremely hard. I would really wait a while until you go on to full intercourse, when you are with this guy for longer and also when you are older and a pregnancy wouldn't be such a huge burden for you if it happened.

-- from Jenn
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