I found out that he was selling coke and everything seemed so messed up after that

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I recently dated this guy for a month and the first 2 weeks were perfect! He stayed with me every night, called when he said he would, was cuddly, fun, and answered all my phone calls. I fell hard for him and we got along great. All of a sudden things changed. He answered my call one night when he was at the bar and said he would call me when he left, as he always had, I had no reason to think different. He never called and the next day went by- no call. That night at like 1am, he called and met me at the bar. Everything seemed fine and I let it go. The next night he didnt call me either and I got very pissed off. I didnt know if I had known him long enough to say something or not. I just let him do what he wanted. He came over the next day and spent a few hours with me, the first time in a few days. I told him that if he wanted to part that he should just tell me instead of doing these things to me. I also asked if there was someone else. He looked very serious all of a sudden and assured me that neither was going on and that he wanted to be with me. His actions after that were variable. Sometimes he was hyper sometimes serious, sometimes he didnt show up when he said he would. I found out that he was selling coke and everything seemed so messed up after that. After getting mad at him another day for just not being around or calling me, I ignored him when I ran into him at the bar. I caused a scene when I saw him dancing with another girl I knew and he hasnt talked to me since. He told my friends that I called him a f*** up (which I never came out and said) and that I didnt care about him at all. He said he would never change and that he still cared about me. I was wondering if maybe he was on coke, does his actions seem like the way people are when they are on drugs? Also why would he tellme that he wasnt going anywhere (leaving me) when i told him how i felt and he never said he wouldnt change. I thought he would have said he would never change when i got mad at him for hanging out late but he never said that. He led me to believe there was a furture dor us. What is the deal? and why wont he call me if he supposedly cared about me? I have text him that i was sorry and that i miss him but i have gotten no response.

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If he's into coke, his actions will be hard to understand.

Sometimes he will be overly hyper and other times quiet and sometimes paranoid.

You can't really depend on him for anything that you want. He can say one thing and then turn around and do something else.

You would be a lot happier without him around you! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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