i realise she gave me many chances before the break but i kept messing things up

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I wish i could make her change her mind and come back to me.it all started when we both feel stress at work and stop communicated with each other.3 years relationship.1 month cold war,1 day break,all gone. i took care of her since.she was weak and easily sick but i help her gain health and we went trought lots of hardship.she give up easily but in the end i recoverd her and stop the breaks.

we seldom quarrel recently but i mistreated her and being too relax.i have my stress yet i couldn't bring up to her cos she had hers.i started to play ionline games and mistreated her.she cries while bathing and sleep.i didn't realise she was this lonely and stress...then one day she ask for break and hurt me deep saying all sorts of bad things.....that was our birthdays.our birthday is one day after each other.we had awful birthday.i try get her back but all went wrong and her parents found out cos of me.they force her back.she left with broken dreams.we still talk in net but then i rush things and did a call and that stressed her infront of her parents...

she stop contacting me.last word she said was i hate you so very deep.i found out she had very bad month after that.and her friends bring her out for vacation.she now tries to continue her career dreams in other place while i still tries to ask her back.i learnt so much and understand so much during these period. sick so much for her,i can't lose her.cos i want to take care and protect her my whole life bring her happiness.

i realise she gave me so many chance during the time before break but i kept mess things up.what i did all base on instincts and logic but all back fired me and even stress and hurt her more.i know she still love me deep thats why she hates me deep.she has been doing lots of odd things,like tries smoking,lies alot and act as happy...she is trying hard to forget about all this and live a happier life...should i sacrifice my love just to get her happy...i really want her back cos i am so very sure i will do things right this time.i am a partial blind person yet i still work hard.but the main thing is i disappointed her and i can't give her security.....

what should i do to earn a chance?to let her come back to me.i can only sent her emails but she won't reply.the last wrong i did recently was i ask her god sister to pursuait her back to me.she reply with the mail i send her.saying i disappointed her.{she doesn't want her god sister to worry,or she don't want her to know where she is.}her god sis was not helping me.she had been two headed agent.i really did my best to ask her return so things will come right this time but all back fired.all!what to do?she won't answer my call,she wont reply?how could i get her back just for the good this time?i dont want her to face bad birthday experiences again.i seems to lost her trust,love?,commitment......but i know she still read my mails.the last mails i sent her says i realise more wrong and realise she had been giving me many hints but i blew them all.and i ask her forgiveness.ask her return but i won't force.saying i will built myself up to what she calls secure and wait for her to come back to my hug again.

but i have no confident and during work....i couldn't stop thinking of her......i want her to come back,stop torture herself,be herself again come back to me and we start things right this time.what to do?pls give aids.

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If she is reading your email, try this.

Make a list of all the things you messed up with comments on what you should have done and how you will change. You don't have to send this all in one email, in fact you shouldn't.

Don't expect an answer so after you send the whole list, then write her an email asking her if you had forgotten something or if something very important was missing from the list. Hopefully, she will respond to this request.

Tell her that even if she won't take you back into her life that you would appreciate some feedback so you can improve your chances with another woman.

With any luck, this process will bring her back to you.

Good luck! George

-- from George
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