i just need to know how i can figure out what he wants or even read his mind

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my question well its very confusing my situation that is i'm a 21 year old women and i have had a very confusing and messed up life until i was about 16 years old i started chatting to the guy who was a year older then me on a chat room and we chat for quit a while and then we finally meet each other we meet in a safe spots and it was all good we talked for hours and he walked me home and we stood outside my house in the middle of winter and frooze but it was worth it well after a couple days of hanging out and talking we went to the movies and he asked me out and he was a very sweet guy and so we starting dating and it was great we date for a about 3 years and were even ingaged, he ask me to marry him a few months after dating and he ask me 3 times to marry him so i was ingaged to him for 3 year well about a year and half went by we started to have agurements he never hit me he was never abuseive towards me or nothin like that but we would arguements about little things that didn't even matter and then it went to him goin out all the time like everyday all day well i was suppose to stay home and do nothing well that went on for about a year or so and then it came down to him finding someone else and to be honest i didn't do anything i guess u can say i accepted it and i just wanted him to be happy and for him i guess he was and we were living together well this was all goin on so i lived there with my ex and his new g/f and then i realized that i was hurt but i never told him or showed him that i was hurt by it but i guess u can say i moved on i went throw 3 guys in a matter of a year just knowing they weren't the ones i wanted well the last guy i was dating me and him need a place to live so i asked my ex's grandfather who lives with my ex if i and my b/f at the time to move in and so we moved in and now it was my ex and his g/f and me and my b/f well about a month after moving in him and his g/f brokeup and then me and ex got close we stayed up for 3 night straight and drank and just talked about what happen between us and the whole regerting thing well shortly after that me and my b/f at the time broke up and i also told my b/f at the time that i loved my ex and i would until i die my ex was my first true love and i still believe that to this day well after that me and my ex got close again u could say we were seeing each other but then we drifted away again he was goin out every night and day and it was the same thing over again but as i should say that both times he drifted away from me we where discussing having kids and he was all for it and then the drifting apart happens again well we drifted apart enough that i moved out and got with my other ex and about a month after i moved out near christmas time we started talking again and we have talked ever since everyday kind of thing and we see each other like everyday and u can say that we have become friends with benefits but i feel more of him i feel the feelings i got when we were first together all these feelings are coming back and its been 2 year since we have been accually together and i'm in so much pain i still cry to this day for him and i just want him back but i have asked him where we stand and he is having alot of medical problems he has problems with his back in which he cant sleep and he told me when i asked him where i stooded with him where were we goin and i got i dont want to think about it will make me in more pain but since then he has showen alot more closens towards me he has kissed me and i have kissed him he has asked me to spend the night with him sever times and i have said no and have said no everytime and he seem disappointed so i guess my question is what should i do? i want to be with him, i want to be friends with him we have alot of friends and family inbetween us, i just need to know how i can figure out what he wants or even read his mind b/c for 5 years i have loved him , missed him, cryed for him, and even (died) for him (meaning i feel dead inside) and he knows i will give him the world but i just want to know if i'm his world. and where do i start to read his mind in a technically point of view.
thnxs from confused and losted in my own world of love

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You need to have a long, loving, trusting, honest, caring conversation with him (actually more than one) and find out what is going on in his mind and you let him know what is going on in your mind.

That's the only thing that will help you understanding what he is thinking. I hope he is willing to share that with you!

-- from George
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