He is my exboyfriend, but he doesn't want to date right now

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have this benifit friend. He is my exboyfriend,but he dosen't want to date right now and we kiss and stuff,but no sex I'm only 17 and he is to. I love him so much I want to be with him but he dosen't. He holds me and looks in my eyes with pasion. He had loved me before, but he is the that broke up with me and the one that wanted to start out slow. I had agnored him and after a while we talked. We meet like around 9 b4 he goes running. and he says Im the only girl that he has kissed in while before summer started. well we had been broken up for about 4months and I got an e-mail from him he wanted to be friends {nothing more} but he's like always all over me when no one elese is around. He told me he missed me, but we havent talked about love but thats what I want I want him to love him and him to love me again. I feel like we still had what we had before. but he admits that he just wants to be friends with benifits. but I feel like I'm his convence when ever he wants to make out.How can I get it turned all around to wear we are boyfriend and girlfriend agian and love each other. "love like we had before."

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You can't make someone fall in love with you. That's the unfortunate fact of life. So no, there's nothing you can do to change his mind, he needs to come around to a decision like that on his own.

Right now, he has everything he wants. He has his freedom and at the same time he has you hanging on a string for whenever it's convenient for him to stop by. He knows you'll always be there for him just waiting for his call and then you'll jump to be with him. There's no reason for him to move this on to the next stage. If you are truly unhappy with the situation, you need to change the situation and explain to him that friends with benefits is just not good enough for you anymore and either he should fish or cut bait, but not play around with you like this. And you have to be strong about it. If he says no that you're just going to be dangling like this for a while, then you need to put him aside and find someone who will give you everything that you want in life. This guy is not the perfect one for you, because if he were, then he would be dating you, not just playing with you.

I wish you the best!


-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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