then things started to go wrong

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Please help me, i really dont know what to do, i met my bf in the january and we moved in together in february, i never before felt feelings like i felt for him, we got engaged in may and i couldnt have been happier, then things started to go wrong, we started arguing and shouting , not often but too often for my liking, so we split up in the february, my choice, i asked him to move out, and give me some space, to decide what i wanted, we carried on seeing each other, but in the may we had a big argument and he cracked two of my ribs, i didnt speak to him for ages but then i decided that maybe i had pushed him to it, by doing what i had done, so i fogave him , we started to sort things out, and i asked him to move back in in september, he waited till october and moved back in, in november we were out and drinking when we started arguing, he kicked me and hurt my back, then i forgave him again, i really do love him do this time we just got on with things and tried to forget about it, with him promising to never do it again, i dont know whats wrong now, but we had another huge argument on friday night and he head butted me, i feel that on one hand we cant go any further but on the other i still love him and cant ever see me getting over him , he says he loves me, and that his temper has been caused by his ex gf, which i do believe, but why should i suffer? he has given me a week to decide what to do, he is staying at his dads, but im not allowed to contact him or talk to him at all, in that time, which i know is good, but its killing me already, im not sleeping, and its cracking me up, if i cant last for a week how would i last if i finished it for good? please, please help me Advice

There is no other advice other than LEAVE HIM. He has caused you physical harm. This is a bad guy to know. He will continue to hurt you. You do not deserve to be hurt no matter what you do!


And get some counselling so you can move beyond this. You need to see what you are doing and how it is affecting your choices. You should have left him that first fight where he broke your ribs. That you chose to forgive him means that you have issues you need to work out. There is no excuse in the world that will make up for the physical harm he caused you.


Good luck. And do not give in to him again. You are worth more than this.

-- from Marc
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