I brokeup with him because of his temper and tired of him secretly talking to his exs

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This is interesting and different. My ex boyfriend who I was engaged to for four years brokeup. It has bee a years and a 1/2 now. We have been friends, I brokeup with him because of his temper and tired of him secretly talking to his exs ( girlfriends). He is 52. We started talking about getting back and working on communication when it came to his temper. He is not physicall, but yells and gets irriated unexpectedly. As soon as we talked about it, he sent me flowers for Valentines, called more but was leaving for atrip for two weeks for work. I suspected something wwas up befor the trip. I snooped and found emails from one of his ex girlfriends from 9 years ago. Sure enough, she was coming to visit him after he got back from his trip. He did not tell me anything. It seems I have learned, not from him, but snooping they are trying to rekindle their love. Can you please tell me, Why does someone do that. He was in his early 40's when they dated.
Mind you, when we first brokeup, he went back to the ex prior to me within 4 months to spend time with her. I only know they went away for a weekend and were talking much more. It ended, but I;m so confused. I'd like to know if the ex from 9 years ago is possibly his true love? Do you think it is possible they can work it out together? I'm letting go as I will not talk to him, but just trying to understand it all.

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He is just a man-child. Some people never grow up and he sounds like one of them. He also sounds really insecure and likes to keep all of his "successes" around in case his current fling doesn't work out.

You are best to just move on and find a real man who can appreciate you... oh, and no snooping. That's playing dirty! How would you feel if someone did that to you?

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