He Should Miss What He Lost
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I know! I know! I know! Everyone keeps telling me this is going to get easier and that he doesnt deserve me anyways but why do I still feel like Im without a heart anymore.
My ex-fiance and i broke up about two weeks ago and we are "friends" now, the problem is we are continuing to have a physical relationship but he still says he doesn't want to be anything but friends. During our relationship I was extremely unhappy and always worried he was cheating on me. I am the one who broke it off in the first place but then I got scared and I did the same old thing trying to "work things out" again.
This time he said no. I was devistated, in our relationship I was the perfect girlfriend, and he was always the one who was hurting me, so my question is if I am the one who broke it off and he was doing wrong towards me in our relationship why am I the one suffering right now, shouldn't he be upset about what he lost?
If you were extremely unhappy and always worrying then you weren't the perfect girlfriend. You were a jealous mess. That doesn't come across well to the guy in the relationship. In fact many relationships I know of were destroyed because jealous females drove away the once-happy males.
A breakup is always very hard and it's harder when you try to do things like keep-sleeping-together-but-promise-not-to-really-care. I would take a REAL brake for a few weeks to let you both sort out your brains. Then you can see where you stand. In the meantime I would also really work on your jealousy.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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