Pregnant and left out

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
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I wanna ask. I am almost 26 and my guy is almost 30. He is stable economically and he works well. I just found out that I am almost 1 month pregnant but there are situations that confusing me. First. My guy asked me to abort the child then when I said I did not want it, he changed his word that he will marry me next year after my child arrives. He said he has no enough cash to build a family (building a family does not need cash, does it?) but in fact he is so stable economically.

Then a week later, he told me that his families do not approve our marriage, although all along, I got along well with his family. I had no troubles with his parents and they are still so nice to me until now.

Deep in my heart, I knew, he just made an excuse to deny any responsibility as the father of the child. I had no courage to tell about my pregnancy to my families at home and or his families because I feel that it is useless to be married with him because I know he does not love me anymore and he wants to date someone else prettier than me.

What should I do, dear friends? Should I keep my beloved child or abort it?
Thanks Advice
If you want to keep him, tell him that if he doesn't marry you then you will get a DNA test to prove the child is his and he will have to pay expensive child support for the next 18 years. This may shock him out of his fears and bring you back together.

If he continues with his refusal to marry then you will have to decide what to do. This may be your only chance to have a child and if that is important to you and you want to be sure you have a child in your life then have the baby and make him pay child support.

If you are uncertain about wanting the baby then you will have to consider getting an abortion and let your life go on as it will.

Only you can make the decision.

Good luck! George

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