should i not have done that????

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ok there's this guy at work that i have had a crush on since i started working at the place of current employment( its been 8 months). since i started working we have talked here and there and he would watch me make my whole way back into the building after my daily lunch time jog, sometimes we would strike a conversation also on way out. Well after being there for sometime i had mentioned to one of the girls i work with that i thought he was great but i also realized the type of gossipers the women i work with are so i went up to the my crush and told him that i had feelings for him. should i not have done this?? i told him i didn't want him to hear it from anyone else and that i preferred it came from me and that's how i told him. i dont really know if he likes me me back but i think he did and does. He's kind of touchy
and always helps me out but he seems to be just an overly nice guy but he seems to talk to me different from the way he talks to other women. the complicated part is that i'm married well separated and divorcing sometime in the near future and he has a girlfriend. He's not happy with her or at least that's what it sounds like because he is always bitchin about her and her flaws. i'm really trying to keep my distance and get over what i feel for him because of the fact that he is taken. I probably should not have told him how i felt in the first place knowing he was taken huh?? What do you think a guy would think of a woman doing this anyway?

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I think most guys would be pleased to hear that they are considered attractive. Especially since it appears that he likes you.

When he complains about his girlfriend he is giving you a hint that sometime something may happen between you two. Perhaps he is waiting until you are officially divorced.

My advice is to continue the relationship you have with him but keeping a reasonable distance so you don't feel like you are breaking him up with his girlfriend. If he wants to break up with her he knows you are interested. Of course you don't want to be so distant that he will write you off as lost.

Good luck! George

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