Unsure if breaking up is the correct choice?

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female

I'm a 21 year old female and have been seeing a man who is 35 for the past 6 weeks. I have loved him for a long time and he is also my first love. When we first started to see each other I kept our relationship a secret from my mom. When she found out she was furious. We had a bad argument and I was given an ultimatium. Choose him or my family. I repaired some of the relationship with my mom but I am not allowed to speak about or mention my parnters name when she is around. He has also been banned from my work because my boss is afraid of a conflict between him and my mom. My partner is well know to the people where I work and the overall opinion is one of dislike. I have been given adviced about him from them as well as my mom. Both my parnter and I have been under a great deal of stress and I have attempted to maintain some form of peace all round. The pressure from my mom is straining my reltionship with my partner, to the point where I worry constantly what will happen if the two accidently meet somewhere. I have begun to think that breaking up might be my only choice. Its not something I want to do but if it means giving peace to my partner. I really need some advice. Is breaking up the correct option? This is my first realtionship so I'm unsure. Any help would be much appreciatied. Thankyou.

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My advice is to continue seeing him for a total of three months.

Things should be clear then as to what you should do. You may decide before three months to separate from him. That sounds like a reasonable thing to do since you are considering it. Hope things turn out well for you.

Good luck! George

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