how do i get her

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my ex and me dated for a year, she told me she wants to see other people(she just recently told me, when we broke up she was very confused).
so pretty much she wants to see others and told me that well see what happens later on.
she told me i made her very happy but we just have to grow on our own or something.

she told me she doesn't know when she will want me, she told me could be a few months who knows. she just said she just doesnt wana date right now.

she told me she doesnt wana hang out with me, and i asked her why and i asked is it because ur not ready for the feelings that can come along with hanging out? but she wouldnt admit or really answer. so im pretty sure its because of that because well always have a connection.
do u think that later we will go back out?
if i don't talk alot to her and just be happy for now do you think it can speed up the process? i know she wants me, she just doesnt want it now. although she never admitted that she wants me. i just know.
do u think she will come around, after seeing other people? and wen we start hanging out again she most likely will fall for me again because of our long past together and the connection we have. Advice
If it is meant to be, she will come back to you.

Meanwhile make yourself the best possible YOU that you can be.

Work on your physical self: work out, keep clean, dress decently, don't smoke.

Work on your spiritual self: get your feelings together and decide what you believe in and then do it; practice being honest, open, loving, trusting, respecting, communicative, compassionate, and affectionate.

Work on your intellectual self: read a book, listen to the news and know a few things that are going on in the world (Iraq, 2008 elections, global warming, etc.); learn a new word every day--if you don't know a word just Google it like DEFINE COMPASSIONATE or whatever. Get good grades in school.

Work on your social self: get involved in sports, join a club, be good to your friends, be a happy person.

Most of these will take some effort and you can't be everythings. But you will feel more proud of yourself and people will respect you more. This girl may too.

Good luck! George

-- from George
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