Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I am AR ' n' she is AB...
I have done my class XII with 92% this year.
Now allow me to take u into the past.
I joined the school in a junior class and I don't precisely remember how and in which year I developed a very strong attraction for AB.
We were too young then so I had to patiently wait for the right time .
She was the most beautiful girl in class and is even today
I had a simple but strong belief that she would be mine one day.
As the years passed, I proved to be an outstanding student and also became a National level Table Tennis player.
I earned the school's scholarship for being the best All-Rounder for several years
owing to a good balance in academics and sports.
Not surprisingly, I was very famous and popular in school.
In class Tenth, I sent her a Friendship card through a friend's sis and she accepted it.
(Actually our school is divided into Boys and Girls Sections except for Class 12th which has Co-education)
So this is how we became friends.
We met a couple of times in school's corridors and at the fete.
I was a boarder and she was a day-scholar. we used to chat regularly on phone during vacations.
Both of us did quite well in class 10th .In class 11th¡¦s second month, I proposed to her face-to-face but she was not prepared then so she gave numerous excuses like
¡§I like u as a very good friend but we are too young right now for that,¡¨
¡§Our thinking doesn¡¦t match,¡¨ etc¡K.
I didn¡¦t expect that so I was really upset and didn¡¦t talk to her for the ¡§next seven months¡¨ or so¡K.In the meanwhile, I got unwanted inputs from her close friends suggesting that she liked me as much as I liked her but she was too scared of her family¡¦s reaction.
Nevertheless, always having won in life, I always felt it like a rejection in my face.
So I again wanted to be a winner. I worked very hard and topped class 11th with an ¡§Ever-highest Percentage¡¨
I got a scholarship for it.
I was happy but my happiness was in something else¡K.someone else rather, in-spite of the long no-contact period.
In class 12th boys and girls¡¦ sections were merged.
On Valentines Day, I gifted her 3 most beautiful cards and to my utter delight she accepted them gracefully.
Hence we came again together, seemingly for ever.
The very first thing she asked me,¡¨ Till where do u think we¡¦ll be able to take this?¡¨
And u won¡¦t believe what my instinctive response was!!!
I said,¡¨ TILL ETERNITY!¡¨ and there was a huge smile on her face
º.We wrote love-letters to each other occasionally expressing our true feelings. We also met on Sundays when I had my outings .Once during the vacations, when her parents were out of station for a marriage we talked ¡§for the whole night for every day of the week¡¨. In school, we hugged and kissed each other whenever we had a chance.
During the vacations I bought a costly Swatch wrist watch for her birth-day along with 17 greeting cards as it was her 17th birth-day....
Everything was an eternal bliss but as luck would have it, bad times were nearing. As I was so deeply concentrating on love, I forgot to concentrate on studies. I was doing average but even that was not acceptable to the teachers as I had always been a topper.
They probably had a hint so they indirectly started criticizing.
AB was not prepared for this and she always told me that bcoz of her I wasn¡¦t studying properly. Moreover she hated teachers¡¦ sarcastic remarks¡K and was scared that the teachers might complain to her parents. I assured her that I would study seriously but she had already made a decision that we should just be friends for class 12th and nothing more than that.
I was really sad at this as she had started avoiding me¡K.I had nothing to think of. I couldn¡¦t even give her the gifts on her birth-day that I had got for her as they were all about love and love.
I fell into depths of depression and my health suffered too¡KI started hating the hostel and wanted to breathe in free air.
One fine day, when I had enough and was really depressed, I lost my mind and broke bounds and came back from school to my home several hundred kms away .My parents are really under-standing and the next day my dad took me to a renowned psychologist and she is the one who helped me out of all this¡KWhen I was fine, my dad asked me whether I would like to go back to the same school¡KI didn¡¦t wish to but I had no other option .The school had already removed me but seeing my past records and doctor¡¦s certificates and with a lot of source and wastage of several months , I was taken back (when we decided to file a case against the school for Its inconsideration of my sickness )
I was debadged and my scholarship was taken back. That was quite obvious and I was ready to pay for my deeds. I went to school again but I had very few months to go about my studies. As u can expect, I didn¡¦t talk to her at all but I always felt the same for her and I had enough proofs of her love for me. The day I had come back then, she was crying the whole day in school as she had felt guilty, my friends told me. She had also left a letter with my friend for me but I could never read that as I had already gone. Anyways I had promised my dad that I would show everyone that I am the same old winner so love had to be stricken off from my list of priorities at least for class 12th.
I requested my dad to ask my school teachers to teach me separately than in batches and they charged me 10 times higher than others .But money was not important for my dad as I started covering at the speed of Ferrari. I covered nine months syllabus in just 2 months and all my teachers must have been more than amazed to see my marks as I have already told u (92%)
with 99% in Computers.
You won¡¦t believe luck always tried to get us closer even though we were more than scared to do it ourselves. In farewell party where there was selection of partners by a lucky lot, we became partners and did the Ball dance together. Even further, her roll-number was next to mine during board exams
I never spoke a word to her but her small gestures and the way she sweetly called my name as if requesting me to forgive her reassured me that our future would always be bright.
Now this is where I need your help. I really love AB more than anything else on earth and I know that she loves me too. I have also been sent strange anonymous emails which also appear to be from her.
Moreover there are a few posts at "YOUR SITE" in I want MY EX-Back column which I am quite sure are from her.Is there any way of knowing from which IP-Address they were sent?? Several girls have proposed to me in these times but I have cleanly told them I am not interested. I am going to UK this September for Software Engineering
(4 yrs) of my own strong interest and have a placement offer as well.
I gave her friend (who has also been my sis) my slam book to fill it and in the lines for me she just wrote AB¡¦s name¡KI know that both of them are really close friends and though I understood her implication, I didn¡¦t ask her anything. Now the thing is that both of us are madly in love with each other and none of us is making a move. My view is that she broke it all up and she should also take the pains to at-least mend the hurt bond.
Is it necessary that if she is a girl, she can¡¦t make a simple move towards a person whom she was so close to?
Is it necessary that a guy has to always be the initiator even though he deserves a lot better?
Will she ever make a move¡K.days, months years are not a problem¡KBut if the wait extends beyond this then I can¡¦t feel like living¡K
God Bless You.
I am not technically equipped to asnwer your question about tracking ip's. However if you google TRACKING IP you will find help there.
Regarding who makes the first move. It should be the one who has more courage. AB may be afraid of causing more trouble for you and is waiting for you to make the first move. I agree that you should take the initiative.
Good luck and congratulations! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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