am i the only one to blame

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
The guy that i was cheating with and I recently broke up, I decided my marriage was best. I have never cheated before, so i was confused and lied to this other man that I had been seeing. The guy that i was seeing works at the job where I work, and went and told everyone a bunch of vicious lies about me, and even calls me profane names. He sent five instant messages to me, each one with something derrogatory to say, and he claims that everyone I work with knows about what a liar I am, and no one likes me there anymore, including him. I havent said anything like that back to him, I have pretty much kept cool and calm and told him that I should not have cheated to begin with, because it was wrong of me to do so. This guy knew I was married from the beginning, and I told him no the first time when he asked me out. He even told me that all of this is my fault, and he was a christian before i came into his life. My question is I know I am to blame for this, but is he to blame as well? Advice
It takes two to tango.

So, yes of course he is to blame too... in fact more because he started it off.

It's too bad he has reacted so rottenly about the whole thing. You are handling it admirably. Keep that up and things should calm down.

Good luck! George

-- from George
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