Fights and Arguing:
Triggers of Anger
Do you find yourself getting really upset at your partner during an argument when he does something relatively innocent - say shaking his head at you? You need to talk about these triggers sometime when youŽre not actually arguing. Explain that something he does gets you really upset for no "real" reason. Maybe it reminds you of your parents, or maybe it simply feels wrong to you. If you can warn him beforehand, heŽll know more about your reactions during the argument and can handle them appropriately.
With everything else to resolve during an argument, if you help communicate these issues before you get into the heat of battle, it will help keep distractions away when youŽre ill prepared to deal with them.
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