when i first was told of my wifes cheating i was in shock. Now the problem is trying to fight the obsessive jealeous thoughts that occupy most of my thinking. We are trying to work it out so here are the tips. If you are spiritual pray to forgive the other person. Keep hands busy. The thoughts like to get at you when you are sitting idle. Talk to support friends but dont go blabbing to everyone who will listen cause when you heal you dont want to be remembered as that guy! Have patience cause this gut wrenching hole in your soul doesnt heal overnight.