Facing your Fears

A lot of jealousy stems over a particular incident, a trigger thought. Maybe you discovered your boyfriend had been cheating on you for months by reading a stray email. A certain image replays in your mind over and over - him working late, chatting tenderly to this other woman, while you sat at home with dinner.

In order to do any work on moving past your jealousy and moving on with your own life, try to figure out what the real "trigger" for you is. Itīs usually not the general "He is a slime and had an affair". Itīs usually something very specific - "And then I bet she rolls over and they gaze into each others eyes for hours!!" When you have narrowed down the core image that really upsets you about the situation, you can use the other techniques in this area to help you work through this.