Why Make Someone Jealous?

Sometimes people I talk to think it´s good to make their partners jealous. "It proves he cares," she´ll say. "I feel wanted when she´s jealous," he says. Wouldn´t you rather that you felt wanted and cared for *without* your partner feeling afraid of losing you?

Jealousy is a painful emotion. To cause your partner pain, and promote this fear of the relationship being harmed, cannot do well for the relationship as a whole. You want to build your relationship up so you both feel wanted, happy, and secure naturally. You don´t want this feeling to only come around when one partner is actively fearing the relationship is in trouble.