Donīt attack just to hurt your partner

When youīre fighting and cannot think of a real argument, often itīs tempting to slip into attacking known weak spots of your partner, where you know he or she is vulnerable. Donīt give in to this kind of escalation - the purpose of the argument should be to resolve an issue, not to rake your partner over the coals. Let the opportunity slip by, and if necessary, congratulate yourself on your reserve :)